know what that sounds like. “Oh jeez, another feel good in adversity blog.” Actually no. I am not interested in feeling good. At least, not as an end in itself. That idea of always feeling good is one of the best excuses for avoiding your feelings and putting off the real spiritual work that needs to be done.
Spirituality, like everything else in life, is work
The state of indecision and confusion IS a golden opportunity. Why? Because it reveals the lack of inner congruence that makes progress possible. Looking closely at what is really going on within every human being, we find that there are numerous conflicting motivations.
- I want to buy those shoes / I want to save money
- I want to lose weight / I want that chocolate cake
- I want to sleep in / I want to go to the gym
- I want to start my own business / I want the steady paycheck
- I want to ask her out / I don’t want to be rejected
- I want the Botox injection / I don’t want to be a phony
- I want to be free / I want to be safe
The only reason you ever make any decision, ever is because one of those motivations becomes dominant. That has to be the case otherwise we really would just sit there and stare. I know you’ve been there. Understanding these conflicting motivations and more importantly, accepting that they are all here to stay is the first step in learning to work with them. Yes you heard me right.
Conflicting desires, emotions and motivations are a permanent part of the human system
You can’t get rid of them. The desire to be free and the desire to be safe will always be present and they are totally contradictory. You can do either completely. Too much safety and life is a bore. To much freedom and you take risks that far outweigh the benefit. So finding the perfect balance between the two in any given moment is the art of life. And the fact that those two motivations are always present gives life its creative tension. When you can’t find the balance you feel that dreaded indecision which can sometimes be so severe as to paralyze you completely.
Freedom and safety are the 2 most fundamental but there are actually 7 that I teach as a part of my 7 Eyes of the Soul course.
- Identity (Sense of Empowerment)
- Creativity and Intellect
All of these energies are always active. Knowing which to give preference to in any moment is the art and that requires knowing where the one who has to keep it all in balance. It requires knowing who you are well enough to know how to employ these various energies, when and in what amounts in order to achieve the best result.
In order to do that a little training is in order. This training is what I call “The 7 Eyes of the Soul” and it breaks down to 7 (of course) key principles:
- Learn to know who you are and where you are going
- Learn to establish yourself in the seat of authority in your inner, energetic world
- Learn to allow and pay attention to inner differences of opinion
- Learn to recognize the source of conflicts and conflicting motivations
- Learn to purposely trigger the conflicts to accelerate progress
- Learn to resolve and integrate the conflicting energies
- Learn to assume the new (and oftentimes uncomfortable) identity of a master
I can’t possibly go into the depth of this study and practice on a blog. My audio course “Just Allow It” (http://JustAllowIt.net) covers step 3 and is 7 ½ hours long all by itself. But let me give you some pointers to get you started.
Always Remember You Are Not Broken
The confusion and indecision you feel is not there because you are stupid or inept or unprepared. It is there because your inner vision does not know how to correctly work with the moment and your own inner landscape in order to get the best results. That is because no one has ever taught you how! You have more than one inner voice arguing (oftentimes quite eloquently) for competing courses of action and you have to negotiate a settlement.
The first thing to do to resolve inner conflicts that lead to confusion is STOP AND LISTEN
You will be amazed at how much gets resolved by just listening to those voices. Why? Because all of these energies have one goal, one mission and one purpose for their life. To keep you safe. The conflict comes from the fact that none of these energies has the whole picture. They only see a part. Only YOU have the whole picture. But, once they know that they have been heard, they do become quiet. If they point out to you their perspective and what they perceive as a danger then they have done their job and go back to watching for triggers.
That quiet is what you experience as a sense of clarity and decisiveness. It is not a mystery. It is all of the inner voices of motivation have been heard and acknowledged and now submit to your decision. You are the leader after all. I know you probably didn’t realize that but you are.
I know that some of this may seem a bit odd at first. And you may also be wondering what in the world this has to do with “Tapping on the Buddha” since I have said nothing about either.
Stay tuned. It gets even more interesting.
For those of you who live in the Miami area I will be teaching “The 7 Eyes of the Soul” at a live event this Friday Night. Click here http://www.facebook.com/events/297769666977835/ to check out the details of the event.
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